A Dose Of Wisdom
Louis Vuitton Handbags Spring/Summer 2010
Monogram Denim Sunburst PM, Price: US$2800 Size: 15″ x 7.5″ x 7.5″ Colors: Vert, Bleu
Monogram Cheche Bohemian, Price: US$2430 Size: 16.9″ x 13.4″ x 10.2″ Colors: Rouge, Bleu
One of my fav designers, Louis Vuitton has released it's Spring/Summer 2010 handbags + bag charm collection, and me likeee. Here are some of my favs. Visit the website for the entire collection.
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Shoe Game: Hot Looks For Spring/Summer 2010
Why Lie?
Being single can be tough, especially in the winter months. Not only is it cold but you have to endure, Thanksgiving, Christmas, New Years, and Valentine's Day without a significant other. I'm by no means a woman that needs a man to "complete" me, but let's be honest nobody wants to be alone. So back to my original statement it's tough being single, but it's even tougher being single in Atlanta! Don't get me wrong I like it here, the weather, the people, the energy it's a great city, but what I'm not fond of is the dating scene. Not because of the ratio issue (there are about 7 women for every man). I meet men all the time, that's not the problem. The problem is the quality of men that I meet. Finding a good quality single man in Atlanta is like finding a needle in a haystack.
I know men and women lie, it's in our nature to do so. Some do it to spare a loved one's feelings. Men, you know when your wife, who's gained a few pounds looks at you and ask if she looks fat in her knew dress and you say, "No, of course not baby." Or ladies, when your girlfriend ask, "Aren't my new orange and green walls beautiful?" And you lie and say, "Girl yes, I love it." Or when she ask if her hairless cat is gorgeous, and you force a smile and say, "Yes" when you know that thing looks like a skinned rat! I'm not talking about those kind of lies, those are itty bitty lies compared to what I'm referring to.
I met a guy last fall. He seemed perfect for me, tall 6"7 to be exact, attractive, nice teeth, he had a decent job, had his own place {with no roommate}, and he was single. After a few dates and realizing that we had insane chemistry I began spending the night at his place. I felt comfortable there, he always made me feel at home. One morning while getting dressed, after a phenomenal night together I couldn't find one of my boots. I looked all over his room, in the closet, no boot. When I looked under the bed not only did I find my boot, but I found a pair of lime green and blue bedroom slippers, in a size 7. I wear an 8 so I knew they weren't mine, and he wears a size 14 so they couldn't belong to him. We weren't officially a couple, BUT we had discussed if we were seeing anyone else. According to our conversation we were both only seeing one another. After my discovery I realized, he lied.
"Oh what a tangled web we weave,
Once we practice to deceive."
To some people it's like what's the big deal? Men lie, that's what they do. "No man is only seeing one woman", is what a male friend told me. "Once he gets married he may stop, but if he's single he's seeing you and anywhere from one to three other women." My thing is even if that's true, couldn't he have been more discreet. I didn't want to see her slippers. It made me feel like I was creeping with someone else's man. I felt stupid, and I'd be lying if I didn't say it stung a little. We'd been kicking it for a few months so naturally I'd started catching feelings. I wasn't seeing anyone else because I enjoyed my time with him. We had good times together, great conversations, and the sex was amazing. When I saw those slippers it took away that lovey dovey feeling. I snapped back to reality, it didn't feel good.
When I confronted him about the slippers, his story changed. I knew then that I was dealing with a super duper liar. He originally told me he was single. Now he began explaining that "technically" he's single because he's not married but he has a girlfriend. Oh, and get this, he wants to continue seeing me. If I could be patient he will break-up with her and we will be a couple. Wow, lucky me! I guess I look like Boo-boo the damn fool! I kindly told him where he can go, how he can get there and what he can do once he gets there! What a humongous butt-hole.
I have a few single friends and unfortunately they meet more of the same, believe it or not some of their stories are worse. The thing is I know people lie and cheat. They've been doing it since the bible days. What I don't understand is why are they still lying about it. I would think by now we could be straight up or honest about the situation. Clearly there are people that don't care if a person is single or not. My thing is let me decide if I want to be down with O.P.P (for you youngsters that's Other Peoples Property). Let me know what I'm getting myself into. I guess in the mind of a cheater a lie is a small thing, and not a big deal at all. In my mind it's like spitting in my face and asking me to apologize to you. It's just wrong so please STOP!
A Dose Of Wisdom
Jodeci: Feenin & Cry For You
IMO some of the best music came out of the 90's. I thought I'd show some love to one of my fav bands, Jodeci. If I could I would post all of their vids, but I can't. With hits like Stay, Come & Talk To Me, Forever My Lady, and Freakin U it was hard to choose just two. We need a male group in this decade to domintae the way DeVante, Dalvin, K-Ci, & Jo-Jo did.
I miss them!!!
True Love Is.....
The whole V-day thing has me thinking about all this L word stuff. Everywhere I look in the supermarket and Walmart today all I saw were teddy bears, xoxo, love this, and true love that. So it got me to thinking what exactly is true love? It damn sure isn't a teddy bear that sings "I Will Always Love You" (even though he was cute ;)
What is true love? I'm not consulting Webster for this one, I'm gonna just speak straight from the heart. I believe true love comes from within. It's been said so many times, "You must love yourself before you can love someone else." That statement is so very true. Think about it. If your miserable and unhappy with you, how can you possibly love or be in love with someone else? You can't. You'd just make them unhappy. There's another old saying, "Misery loves company."
True love is always being there, it's unconditional, it's patient. True love never gives up. True love in my book means being true to oneself. It's like cracking yourself open like Humpty Dumpty and honestly evaluating yourself from top to bottom. The good and the bad, that's tough right? Well so is true love. Nobody ever said it would be easy, but I believe all good things are worth working hard or fighting for.
I'll end by saying, if your in a healthy and loving relationship cherish what you have, it's rare. Show and tell that person how much you love and appreciate them. If your in an unhealthy relationship that can't be repaired, free yourself. You deserve better! If your single, treat yourself to a nice vacation, a spa day, a new outfit, a bouquet of flowers, chocolates, a new electronic device (with very strong batteries! ;) or whatever will put a huge smile on your face! Hang out with your fav group of friends. Buy yourself something, don't sit around and wait for someone else to do it for you! Life is too short. Your significant other should add to your happiness, they shouldn't be the only source of your happiness.
True+love=loving yourself truly
A Dose of Wisdom
"There’s a difference between interest and commitment. When you’re interested in doing something, you do it only when circumstance permit. When you’re committed to something, you accept no excuses, only results."
Iconic Fashion Designer Alexander McQueen dies at 40
Iconic fashion designer and genius, Alexander McQueen was found dead in his London home today.
The police have not released an official report on the cause of death, but his press representatives at KCD Worldwide said it appeared to be a suicide. McQueen's death comes days after his mother's death.
He will truly be missed. Rest in peace Alexander. Some of his amazing designs are pictured below.
Sade: Cherish The Day & Kiss Of Life
I'm a HUGE Sade fan the bands album Soldier Of Love was released yesterday and it's phenomenal! If your a music lover it's a must have. It's been ten years since they last released an album (Lovers Rock). These are two of my favs.
"There must have been an angel by my side, something heavenly led me to you. Look at the sky it's the color of love."
The L Word Part II
By day five she was really worried. She finally got a text that said:
I made it. See you when I get back babe
Huh??!! *scooby doo side eye* To say she was upset was an understatement. Mind you they had been dating for eight months. She was used to talking to AND seeing him almost everyday. He goes to California which is another coast but not another freakin planet, and he seems to have forgot about her. They have phones, and these remarkable machines called computers that have this cool feature that allows you to communicate with loved ones all over the world!
Huh??!! *scooby doo side eye* To say she was upset was an understatement. Mind you they had been dating for eight months. She was used to talking to AND seeing him almost everyday. He goes to California which is another coast but not another freakin planet, and he seems to have forgot about her. They have phones, and these remarkable machines called computers that have this cool feature that allows you to communicate with loved ones all over the world!
It took everything in me to stop her from booking a flight and going to Cali to hunt him down. After I calmed her down with a big bottle of Moscato she expressed a few concerns. It seems Mr. MIA had been distant and acting strange the last few weeks before he left, she also noticed he was talking to a chick on facebook quite a bit. Did I mention the chick just so happened to live in Cali?! Things that make you go hmmmm!
I know people say what you don't know won't hurt you, but I completely disagree...KNOWLEDGE IS POWER! So we did a little detective work and after talking to the chick on facebook Kerry discovered that her man was not only in Cali with another woman but he was staying with her. It seems they had been dating for TWO YEARS long distance! He'd proposed to her the day that he arrived and she was making plans to move to the A by January!!! When she confronted the a-hole about it he admitted that it was true. It took lots of Kleenex, drank, time, and more drank for Kerry's poor heart to heal. After a late night visit to his home she bust the windows out of both his cars.....I bust the windows out your car! *singing like Jazmine Sullivan* There's something about revenge that's so sweet, it seemed to really make her feel better! So there you have it this is what happened to Kerry when she allowed herself to fall for the L word.
To all of you optimist out there I'm not anti-love, I'm pro-precaution. I believe love is the greatest thing in the world! I know that every relationship doesn't end in heartbreak and pain, and I also know that there are some people that can be trusted and are capable of true love. But in Miss Jackson's book of definitions the L word is described as such:
L word \BEWARE! PROCEED WITH EXTREME CAUTION!!!\ 1: A gamble 3: can be extremely beautiful or completely horrid 2: If your not willing to gamble with your heart RUNNNNNNN!!!!
There's nothing wrong with guarding your heart, if he/she is truly worthy they will be patient and prove they deserve your trust and L word!
The L Word Part I
With this Sunday being V-day I thought I'd focus on the L word and what it means in 2010. When I say the L word I mean LOVE. I told a friend my idea and you would have thought I cursed at her. She gave me an evil look and I swear she hissed at me. I could be wrong because I was on my third drink by this time but I'm pretty sure she hissed or gagged. I digress, let's take a look at what Webster has to say about it.
love \'lev\ n 1: strong affection 2: warm attachment 3: attachment based on sexual desire 4 : To CHERISH 5: to feel a passion, devotion, or tenderness for, cares
This love thing sounds wonderful doesn't it? If only the dictionary gave you tips on how to tell when love was really the big bad wolf disguised as your dear sweet granny, just waiting for you to let your guards down so he can devour you whole! I talked to a group of my single friends about love in the twenty first century, and it seems the general consensus is their running away from cupid and his acid laced bows instead of running toward him. Movies make you want to find love and never ever let it go like a magical money tree that produces fresh one hundred dollar bills everyday.
But real love now that's another story. For example my friend Kerry (not her real name but it'll do) met a guy last winter. He's thirty something, said he was single, owned his own home, works for a substantial accounting firm, and he looks hella good (I'm from up north but I think I've been in the A long enough to say hella). On the first date he showed up with flowers, took her to a restaurant in Buckhead (for those of you that haven't visited Atlanta, it's an affluent part of town). He sounds like a good catch doesn't he. Dates 2 & 3 were just as nice and by date 4 they were inseparable. Literally, they did the do all weekend. She was hooked like a crack feen. By the summer it was official they were a couple. She was head over heels in love! Awww sounds so sweet doesn't? I know, I loveee love ;)
If only the story ended there, with a happy ending like books and movies. Do you think it will? Let's find out.....back to the story:
In September he told her he was going home (Cali) for a few weeks. She's never been so she came up with a great idea, she would join him. A nice first time vacation together, sounds good right?........Wrong! He said he wasn't sure how long he would be gone and he had business to take care of while he was there. Not sure what that meant but I knew for damn sure something wasn't right. A woman's intuition is usually on point, but I didn't say anything. As a friend sometimes you have to just be there, and keep quiet. Of course it stung her a little but she played it off told him to have a good time, and she would miss him(just like the good girlfriend that she was). After he left she hadn't heard from him in two days but she didn't want to bug him so she resisted calling or texting. She figured he was busy spending time with his friends and family. By the third day she sent a text telling him she was thinking of him and loved him....no response!
By day four......STILL NO RESPONSE!
To be continued.......
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